Grace and Favor
There comes a time in your life when you know your efforts alone are not suffice to get you where you need to be. It doesn’t matter how smart you are, how attractive you are, or how great of a personality you have. There comes a time in all our lives where we need to depend on something greater than ourselves. I call it God you may call it universe. Whatever your beliefs- we all need grace and we all need favor.
I can honestly say grace and favor is what allowed me to complete my graduate degree with a 4.0 GPA as a single mom. Managing fulltime graduate school, working fulltime, and raising a 1 year old while living in a new city by myself was no walk in the park. There were many nights I had to sacrifice rest and leisure to make sure I got things done.
Single Parent Does Not Mean Alone
Some people hear the word single parent and they think of the word alone. This correlation makes sense but I can honestly say in this process I did not feel alone. This was only because I trusted God to be with me. I felt his hand on me as I went through this extremely busy time in my life and I’m eternally grateful that he never left my side.
Are You In a Long Haul Process?
Now you’re probably wondering what was the practical steps I took to get this done? Outside of favor and grace there was a lot of work I had to do. For me the scripture this too shall pass was encouraging. I also knew sacrifice was a choice I had to make in order to gain something greater in the end. Maybe you’re not a single parent going through graduate school and working but you’re in a long haul process. Whether that’s starting a business, writing a book, or taking on a passion project. These pursuits can require many years of tweaking and refining. Nevertheless, there is hope and here are a few tips to help you along the way.
What Steps Did I Take to Make This a Reality?
- Encourage yourself– You must believe in yourself more than any of your supporters. We all have doubts but reminding yourself of how amazing you are every step of the way is essential. It’s easy to let the outside chatter get in your head. You have to push through and be your source of encouragement.
- Don’t loose sight– Through my grad school process I kept a record of how many classes I completed. This way I never lost sight of what I did so far. Sometimes we get so caught up on what we haven’t completed that we forget how far we’ve come. I hope you know every step you take matters.
- Have a Winning Strategy– I absolutely had to use systems to help myself be successful- calendars, online shopping, grocery pickups, hiring a housekeeper, using productivity trackers. I did whatever it took to make life run as smooth as possible.
- Don’t Feel Guilty– If your juggling many balls something is liable to fall. Its okay. I had to remind myself in this long haul process that I was handling more than I usually would and it was ok to make a mistake. If I could get 80% of things done at the end of the day I learned to be happy. Even if I didn’t- I learned how not to feel guilty at the end of the day.
- Lean on Your Source- last but definitely not least my spirituality became my outlet. You can be confident in knowing when God has called you to do something he will see you through to the end, providing resources, people, and insight. God has a way of shinning sunlight onto any challenging situation.
Processes Take Time
To all the people who are making great things happen in this world, things that don’t happen overnight stay encouraged. Remember processes take time but in the end you’ll come out refined, insightful and with a capacity to handle much more than your big heart ever imagined.